MEA CULPA...I'VE BEEN A PERFECTIONIST

On a more serious note, as I mention in my profile I read all the 'child raising' books you could buy on Amazon and last night while reading the latest one: 'The Price of Privilege' I came across to this piece on PERFECTIONISM:
There is no perfect Christmas, child outfit, familiy, vacation, home, marriage or friendship. This is real life, and we would do well to cast the notion of perfectionism out of our lives and ge on with the real business of living with stregths and weaknesses, abilities and deficits, accomplishments and faliures. This is how we help our children learn the art of living: by encouraging them, to take pleasure from their efforts and successes and to tolerate their limitations.
CHASING PERFECTION IS A GOOD WAY TO HAVE YOUR LIFE PASS YOU BY. It keeps you focused on the future, and out of the moment. It means you miss small pleasures as you chase larger ones. And it means that your own life is stripped of real feeling, love, and connection as you pound yourself and those round you with fantasies instead of welcoming realities. The pursuit of perfection is a diversion from the messiness of real life. If your real life isn't working, don't push yor children, push yourself to make a change. ONE CANNOT E PERFECT AND VULNERABLE AT THE SAME TIME. To truly love, to truly nurture and protect both ourselves and our children we need our eyes open to the people in front of us, real people with varying degrees of talen and ambition and capacity and desire. We need to understand that often, CLOSE IS GOOD ENOUGH, AND PERFECT IS FAR TOO COSTLY!